Incident sa odohral v novembri minulého roka. Amber prišla do juhoafrického mesta, aby odprednášala informácie o svojej kampani "Stop rape! Educate" (Neznásilňuj! Vzdelávaj), kde ju v moteli u kamaráta znásilnil muž menom Shakir. Obeť znásilnenia sa niekoľko minút po akte odfotografovala, plačúc v sprche, v ktorej sa malo znásilnenie odohrať. Fotku následne zverejnila na jej Instagrame. Čo však vyvolalo v komentároch vlnu pohoršenia je skutočnosť, že Amber dobrovoľne súhlasila ísť s mužom do sprchy. Komentujúci ju obviňujú z toho, že tak násilníka vyprovokovala.
Svoje konanie zdôvodnila v texte pod fotkou, spolu s farbistým opisom znásilnenia: "Išla som do svojho starého motela za kamarátom Nickom. Bol tam aj iný chlapec, Shakir. Bolo od začiatku jasné, že po mne ide. Raz som ho pobozkala, no on vyzeral príliš opitý, a tak som mu povedala, že to bolo zlé načasované a už som vlastne stretla niekoho iného. Predtým ako som z motela odišla, išla som ešte na poschodie pozdraviť ďalšieho kamaráta. Shakir išiel po schodoch za mnou a povedal, že si ide dať sprchu a spýtal sa, či sa nechcem pridať. Súhlasila som, pretože v mojom novom hosteli tiekla iba studená voda a po dvoch dňoch choroby som horúcu sprchu jednoducho potrebovala. Akonáhle som sa dostala do kúpeľne, zrazil ma na kolená, kričala som STOP. Zdvihol ma a zasunul penis do mojej vagíny. Opäť som ho požiadala aby prestal, potom som sa rozplakala. Keď na mne začal praktikovať análny sex, omdlela som... Po zobudení sa v kúpelni som cítila všetky tie negatívne pocity, ktoré človeka zavalia po znásilnení. Stud, hnus, pocit utrpenia. Stopy DNA určite zmizli vo výlevke sprchy."
It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it's hard to remember all the details.... I've been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that's when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape...shame, disgust, suffering. I'm here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I'm going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate
"Každý boží deň hovorím obetiam znásilnenia, že musia prehovoriť, vedela som, že aj ja musím spraviť to, čo hlásam. Prvé čo som po precitnutí preto urobila bolo, že som sa odfotila a opísala priebeh incidentu," uviedla Amber pre magazín Marie Claire. Keď sa zo šoku spamätala, navštívila gynekológa, odkiaľ zároveň zverejnila ďalšiu fotografiu - zachytila na nej zariadenie ambulancie.
My view of the rape kit. Thank you all for being so loving & supportive during this time. Your messages pushed me to take action and to stand up for myself and for all rape survivors. For those who wish to BLAME ME or any other survivor out there, I want you to know that you are the very reason that I am so brutally honest. I could have hidden details. I could have kept some info to myself, but NO. You need to know the truth and to see the reality of the situation. No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape. It doesn't matter if I kissed him. It doesn't matter if he was drunk. It doesn't matter if I said yes to a shower. I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that's how the scene went down. I don't need to explain myself but if you're wondering WHY I took a shower with him, it was written in the text, I'd been sick with food poisoning for 2 days and needed to sweat it out. My current place of residence has only cold water (third world problems are real!) and it seemed like a miracle to be offered a hot shower. That's not what he was there for though, because as soon as he got a chance, he threw me to the ground and had his way. Dealing with rape is hard enough but the aftermath is often even more traumatic but I did this for you and I did this for me. The US Embassy and the South African police are super supportive and he may be arrested as soon as this week. Thank you for the love. And for the victim blamers, I send love, peace, and enlightenment to you so that you may be a beacon of light for us, too. #StopRapeEducate #AmberAmour #AmberTheActivist #SouthAfrica #humanitarian #healing #education #africa #survivor #sexualassault #recovery #victimblaming #overcome #rapeculture #staystrong
Amber v ďalších týždňoch po znásilnení informovala o stave vyšetrovania prostredníctvom textových obrázkov na Instagrame. Vyšetrovatelia páchateľa vypočuli a zatkli, no kaucia bola stanovená na 75 dolárov, ktoré obvinený nasledujúci deň zaplatil, vďaka čomu bol prepustený na slobodu. "Nevzdávam sa. Budem sa hájiť na súde. Súdny proces začne 29. marca. Aj keď som nahá, neznamená to, že si TO pýtam! Moje telo je len a len moje."
Since I got raped last month, I've been spending more time naked in public with strangers. (Yes, you heard that right!) 💯 Not only do I enjoy the freedom I feel being nude in nature, but it's also to prove the point that nudity does not equate to sex or rape. I skinny dipped in a few waterfalls and swam naked at night in the Indian Ocean. I was with men & women from different backgrounds and ages and GUESS WHAT? I didn't get raped. 🙌 This proves the point that clothing/nudity do not cause rape, only rapists do!! The man who attacked me would have done so regardless. I didn't even take my clothes off to take the shower, he destroyed them leaving them bloodied. 🛁 So to answer the question "What kind of woman takes a shower with a guy who is not her boyfriend?" (Stop assuming I'm straight, btw.) The answer is I DO! I'm a liberated, body positive naturist. If I want to swim or shower with a stranger, that's exactly what I'll do! Most people are not rapists. Most people have self control. I'm not putting myself in "dangerous situations" I'm being the change I wish to see in the world: a world where women are safe and free to live how they please! By exposing the female body in a non-sexual way, we systematically desexualize it. So, I'm gonna keep rocking birthday suit which reminds me: My birthday is in 3 days!! 🎉 Photo by @nateynukez 🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸🍃🌸 #AmberAmour #AmberTheActivist #nature #nudism #model #modeling #feminism #feminist #yesallwomen #humanrights #freethefuckingnipple #girlswithdreads #CreatingConsentCulture #bodypositive #bodypositivity #effyourbeautystandards #birthdaysuit #girlpower #goddess #naturelovers #naturism #wildwoman #skinnydipping #freedom #StopRapeEducate
Self-compassion is a process, especially if you've been abused, bullied, or raped. How do you build yourself back up after you've been torn down?... You may ask... I say there are many ways to build your confidence & self-image. First, you must break free from the abuse and surround yourself with people that love & support you. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's so easy to blame yourself and to self-destruct but you don't deserve the abuse from others, nor from yourself. Next, start living from your spirit. Do anything any everything that makes you happy: be creative, work toward your dreams, make music, sing, dance, play, spend lots of time in nature. Drop bad habits. Stop caring and just start living. Fuck the beauty industry. You don't need to do anything to be "prettier"; you are already perfect. Go follow @natnatperez the woman behind the camera. We need more feminist photographers and she is phenomenal!!! ☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️💜☀️ #StopRapeEducate #ambertheactivist #AmberAmour #feminism #feminist #womensrights #humanrights #equality #queer #model #modeling #ukulele #girlswithdreads #loveandlight #love #happy #namaste #art #music #girlpower #girlboss #success #survivor #peace #happyhippie #positivity #revolution
I posted this picture in September 2015, before getting raped on the #StopRapeEducate World Tour. I thought this message was worthy of a repost in the name of @creatingconsentculture ⭐️ As much as I want to feel strong and happy about the new year, I've been feeling a little sick and triggered since I came back to Cape Town on January 1st to help with the police investigation. I think I'll feel better when I leave for Namibia this Thursday... 🌺 I'd like to remind everyone that every survivor has their own way of coping. I feel different everyday. Just because I focus on healing doesn't mean I'm not sad. That's precisely WHY I am working on feeling better. I only say this because it's time we stop painting pictures of what trauma survivors look like. Let's accept everyone and their own unique healing methods. As long as it's helpful, that's all that matters! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 #supportsurvivors #heforshe #girlpower #yesallwomen #humanrights #feminism #feminist #peace #peaceandlove #allmencan #makeadifference #bethechange #amberamour #ambertheactivist #bodypositive #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #hippiechick #namaste #effyourbeautystandards #peaceonearth #notaskingforit #peace #love #CreatingConsentCulture #consentculture #HealingWithAmber